This short piece is about addiction and its home gym in your living room.

Like it owns the place.

Cuz it does.

I’m writing to the people who struggle with compulsion and addiction. Although “compulsion” is not in the title, but “addiction” is, I’m going to use the terms interchangeably…


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I was recently asked, “What do all addicts have in common?” I didn’t pause, “Fear.”

Fear is part of the human condition. Everyone — without exception, is afraid of something, if not many things. What makes the current moment different for many people is that to lower their risk of…


You’re Gonna Need More Than Hope To Cope

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I’m a chapter secretary in a 12 Step program that regularly meets somewhere in North America. I’m the guy with the meeting book. Today, we’re in the midst of a CV-19 pandemic. …


Do These Words Matter?

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How do you know if you’re an addict? How about a compulsive?

The questions reveal more about the people asking them than the eventual answers.

Look, the term “addict” is over-used, while “compulsive” doesn’t see enough use. Why is that?

If you haven’t figured it out…


How Your Close Mindedness & Basic Misunderstandings Short Circuit Your Sobriety

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“I can’t do this God thing in 12 step. It’s asking way too much. I’m out.”

I wish I had $10 for every time I’ve heard someone in12 Step utter those words; telling me that there’s no room for…


Why Sobriety Eludes

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Why is kicking addiction so damn hard?

Dude, these are the most *sticky* human behaviors. It’s got nothing to do with what you hear a lot in 12 step rooms: “The world may’ve been created in 6 days, but not your addiction.” Yeah. …


Should you be there?

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When people walk through the door of a 12 step meeting, the assumption is that she needs to be there. The assumption is fraught with error. It could be flat out wrong.

Let’s face it, people locate a 12 step meeting then muster the courage to walk in the first…

The Recovered Life

A recovering addict with all the bruises, breaks, and scar tissue…and hope.

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